Prayer.. why do we over-spiritualize it?

Why do we try to sound so “spiritual” and “religious” when we pray? I was very intimidated as a new believer when I heard people pray out loud. I thought I would have to take a class or find a book somewhere on how it was supposed to be done. The same people who prayed so eloquently are the ones who told me I need this intimate, personal relationship with Jesus! Well? How was I supposed to have a relationship like that if I have to speak in a manner that just wasn’t “ME”? 

Picture THIS! Your having a conversation with your Spouse or the most significant person in your life. And that person begins speaking very rehearsed and saying some of the same things they have heard others say, being very redundant and repetitive. Suddenly you would feel that your conversation was very impersonal! It would probably become very awkward. Now imagine that that same person never pauses to give you a chance to speak. They simply just keep making requests and going from one subject to the next. Doesn’t sound like a very intimate personal conversation to me. How about you? 

We are just people… human. We are missing the point of what prayer is and is not. Its a conversation between two individuals! Come to HIM, “as you are”, being who he created you to be.  You can’t fool God.  He knows who he created you to be and how he wired you! So, why try to impress him or come to him with all the religious Jib-Jab! Why not just talk to him just like you would your BFF? Why give a mere human that authenticity and not give it to your HOLY DADDY?  

I’m not trying to be irreverent or disrespectful towards God in all his glory and magisty! Yes, he is the Lord of lords and the King of kings. He’s so amazing that I could not look upon him with my human eyes. But in prayer, I come to him one on one, in the most intimate manner, and with the most precious and delicate topics. My prayers are often times filled with questions as well as request.  Often times I am talking to him randomly just as if he were on the other end of a phone conversation. I talk to him about the most  minute topics; such as what I’m going to wear to work that day, helping me eat better, and asking him to make that light turn green when I’m running late for work. In the midst of these topics I’m also discussing the state of my marriage, the health of my children, sickness of others and the madness in world around me! All the while, it’s not “here to”, “therefor”, “at the next appointed hour”, etc!  Now if that’s how you talk and that is your personality, have at it! And you will be blessed for doing so! But, it’s just not mine. I have found an incredible sense of closeness with my Jesus being just who he created me to be! I have a sense of humor and I share it with the Lord. I challenge you to consider sharing your true personality with the Lord. The very next time you pray, maybe it’s when you put this blog down, start a conversation with the man upstairs just being “YOU”! After all, it’s not something you’re hiding from him! He was the one that created you! 

James 4: 8-10 “Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world. Let there be tears for what you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor.”




Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Blog at

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: